Love, Love, Love
The Harmony Method
by: Rev. Chickie Haute © 2014
By trade, I am a spiritual mentor and professional life coach. I help people to find empowerment in their lives to be happy. I noticed in many case-studies that my clients were repeating the "negative behaviors" that left them unhappy from the get-go. I'd like to introduce to you my "Harmony Method". This can be used by interior designers as well as in practical application for anyone with a desire to have more happiness in their lives.
Some of these "negative behaviors" included, but were not limited to enabling, mistrust, being the victim, fearful, lack of self-confidence, living in the past (depression), fear-based emotions, dwelling on insecurities, living in the future (anxiety), poor self-worth, unhealthy, hurt feelings, anger, regret, doubt, stress, discord, hate, unbalance, unhappiness.
- Getting to the Root of the Issue:
Our every day reactions are based upon learned behaviors. These behaviors are learned between ages 2-9 and are a part of our core programming in our sub-conscious minds. These behaviors are a type of tape recording that plays over and over again in our subconscious minds in reaction to everything in our environment during every given moment of our waking day. Think about the people who raised you as a perfect example and their reactions to their environment, as compared to yourself. Try to reflect back and remember.
It's so easy to focus on what it is we do not want in life, but when it comes down to staying focused on what it is we do want in life, we lose focus because of our core "fear" programming. This is negativity.
- Facing the Facts:
Some people use affirmations to try to rewrite this core programming and eventually surrender to "giving up" because they do not work. You can tell yourself you're happy one thousand times but if your subconscious mind (child self) is programmed to be unhappy due to fear-based reactions then your affirmations will not work.
Fear is a mile-stone and very much needed to teach us contrast to its opposite, "LOVE." Love is acceptance and flow, amongst many other beautiful and desirable things we need in our lives for happiness. Love is not only about relationships, romance and intimacy, or the people / pets we have around us, it's a state of mind! As children, we are LOVE and this concept gets lost as we grow up and mature.
- We are our emotions. When we are "LOVE" and living our lives in a loving state of mind, we are self-protecting from enabling behaviors.
- Love happens inside us when we are trusting our intuition, we are confident in ourselves.
- Our beliefs, our knowing and being is something we are sure of, we are living in the moment.
- Love happens inside us when we are secure with what we currently have, we have great self-worth, and self-belief.
- Love happens inside us when our perception of ourselves is sure and capable of defining our personal truth that nothing anyone says about us or to us is truly about us (you're no longer the victim but the witness to someones' perception).
- Love happens inside us when we are accepting of our own flaws, positive about the current moment and any goals we may have in focus.
- Love happens inside us when we are happy, healthy, we are positive and agreeable (even if we disagree, as we respect other people's truths and realities), we are balanced and not extreme in our thinking.
- Overall, we are not our environment, we are harmonious and happy.
Yes, that's what children are, "LOVE"! Until someone tells us otherwise and installs fear and doubt into us; we become adults carrying fear and doubt. We spend our lives trying to recapture the pure LOVE we once were.
When you can maintain this "LOVE", then something miraculous happens, our environment starts to change. The people that surround us shift and our circumstances and situations become easier to maintain, our lives begin to flow. Our stress disappears and we begin to flow naturally through life, in enjoyment and happiness.
- What Can You Do About It?
The key question is, how do we stay feeling "loved" and "focused." Though many hypnotherapists have tried this, not everyone can retain the program long-term or permanently.
I'd like to demonstrate what this LOVE emotion feels like.
- Take a moment, put doubt behind you and get into a quiet environment, away from distractions. Relax and slowly speak the words, "LOVE, LOVE, LOVE" three times out loud and allow your body to feel the words resonating with the sound coming from your lips.
If it didn't work, consider your thoughts, doubt or distraction? Perhaps, try it again. If you don't feel anything, you are not grounded. Take a few deep breathes, clear your mind of distractions. Get grounded, focused and try again with a clear / neutral mind. Be present, pay attention to yourself, hear and feel the words coming from your lips. It's a great feeling to have this presence, and awareness.
Imagine feeling that good, all the time? Imagine your environment being that good, all the time! Wow, right?!
It can be, howeer you'll have to want to create this shift and change permanently.
It will require effort on your conscious behalf to change your ways of thinking. Open your perception. Recognize when you are feeling good, as opposed to not feeling good. This contrast will be defined as LOVE or Fear as you follow the traces of your thoughts and what started the fear based emotions and reactions. This is your awareness of "self".
We will start with what is currently in your face at this moment. Your computer, or mobile device.
Place a post it note or find a digital background or screensaver for your mobile device that says LOVE.
Every time you look at it, you say and feel "LOVE".
Consider the room you're sitting in while reading this, perhaps even your vehicle if you're mobile, get a sticker or air freshener to put in your car that says LOVE or a wall hanging that says LOVE. You can even write on a piece of paper, LOVE. Every time you look at it, you say and feel the word "LOVE".
Decorate your home with LOVE (This is creating Harmony). The more you see it in each room, your desk at the work place, say and feel "LOVE" even under your breathe, your body will react, as will your environment and those around you.
As you say and feel LOVE each time, you're reprogramming your body and mind. This affects your emotional patterns. Gradually in time it become a hard coded program installed in your subconscious mind - your tape recorder will keep saying "LOVE, LOVE, LOVE" and you'll keep feeling "LOVE, LOVE, LOVE" and your environment will be showing you, LOVE, LOVE, LOVE. This has been tested by 1000's of people all over the world with remarkable results of happiness.
Got a stressful interaction with your spouse, girlfriend, boyfriend, family member, coworker? Keep saying "LOVE, LOVE, LOVE" under your breathe, feel it and be it, and you will remain calm, balanced and happy.
Wouldn't that be great?!
You can even get clothing that says "LOVE" in every store. Thanks to Rev. Chickie Haute who developed this Harmony method in 2014 and the saying of "Love, Love, Love" international designers have now caught on and are labeling everything with Love!
You can keep a post it note in your wallet that says LOVE. Go into any store to buy decorations or decorative signs that say LOVE. They're everywhere. Everyone is doing this, and not realizing they're changing our generation, as well as their core programming.
Get creative and bring LOVE into your life and home and into every room and be a participant in "Harmony".
Keep saying it out loud or under your breathe, letting your body feel it and enjoy it. The more that you are "love" the more you will attract others into your life who know they are LOVE too!
Enjoy my "Harmony Method" and please share with your friends!
Rev. Chickie Haute